I have heard over and over again that marriage is 50/50.  After being married 26 years I have come to realize that marriage is really 100/100.  I have to care more about my husbands goals, dreams, and needs more than mine and he focusses on mine more than his. 

After less than one year of marriage- I totally agree that marriage is more 100/100 than 50/50. During courtship, you fall in love with the other person and think about them 100x more than you think about yourself during the course of a day. However, somehow after marriage you begin to refocus on yourself again- which is a very bad trap because you just led the other person to believe in marrying you for who you WERE during courting. I am finding myself feeling guilty for taking so much attention lately and am working to give back as much or more as I receive from my husband, in discussions about our day, the activities we choose on weekends to the television we watch together.

Carly that is a great point about the difference in our focus from courtship to marriage.  I think that may be why when some couples hit the rough patches they look back and fondly remember the "good times" of first love and dating.  They see the difference in the relationship from then and now and assume that means they are falling out of love.  Not true.  I like to think of those rough patches as times when I have to work on my focus and make sure that I am doing everything I can to focus on my husband's needs and it never fails - in return he focuses on me.